06|2024
When people come to us with a problem, it’s easy to lapse into behaviors that—although usually well-meaning—serve to block us from hearing the other person’s experience. We’d be better off following the words of this inside-out saying: “Don’t just do something; stand there”…and try not to: 1. Counsel. Seek not to advise solutions (until asked)… Read more »
06|2024
Imagine you are standing in front of a full-length mirror. Naked. You havebeen asked to gaze at yourself for two minutes.Now take a quick inventory of the feelings that were aroused by thissuggestion. Did you feel curious or afraid? Interested or hesitant? Willing orunwilling? Or did you reject the whole idea as something you wouldabsolutely… Read more »
05|2024
Mary thinks she’d be happy if she could just change her weight, her looks and her job. Sean believes that he’s an okay person except for certain personality traits, such as anxiety, impatience and his quick temper. Yolanda’s shelves are bulging with self-improvement books; she’s read them all but she still hates herself. Who among… Read more »
04|2024
Physicians use the word “trauma” to describe a serious injury to the physical body resulting from a sudden impact, such as an accident or a violent act. But you can also suffer emotional trauma, which can cause an equally painful wound to your sense of self as a whole, coherent being. Just like a wound… Read more »
04|2024
When unfavorable situations, actions and emotional conflicts happen againand again in your life—same scene, different characters—there’s a goodchance you are in the presence of a negative “pattern.” Some examples: picking the wrong lovers/partners, constant conflict withco-workers, chronic debting, people-pleasing.At best, these negative patterns cause frustration. At worst, they cause unduesuffering, uphill struggle, sometimes even death.The… Read more »
